Divorce???

I married quite young and had my family early. I knew I was in trouble within the first couple years, but I stayed in this relationship for over 28 years. I didn't know what my options were at that time, and I relied on my husband to provide income while I took care of our home and children. I continually made lists of why I should stay in this marriage versus why I should get a divorce. Money was always the most important reason for staying in--- no matter what the abuse was on the other side of the forumla.

I waited until my children were grown, the dog died, the cat had to be put to sleep and I developed my own successful business venture. When I filed for divorce, my husband was quite angry. I left all my valuables and got my own apartment for a year.

With help I returned to claim most of my half ownership in our accumulated wealth. In the divorce settlement, I had to pay him off because I was worth more at that time.

At any rate, I see both my daughters struggling in their relationships with men. Both are divorced one time. I know that their father had somewhat of a negative impact on them. I had my own issues with them, as well. But my question is, does one stay in a bad relationship for the sake of the children, or leave a spouse for one's own sanity and do one's best for the children by separating?

I don't think there's a definitive answer, but it poses some interesting choices.

Gwenlyn

Until I can come up with something more entertaining, this will have to do as an introduction.